I love my college best friends. I found them at a time in my life when I was evolving and becoming the person I am today. They know a whole different side of me that my hometown friends don’t. I pretty much spent every waking moment of my senior year with these girls and in them I found my soulmates. Carrie (Candace Bushnell) from Sex in the City said it best “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with”. After meeting these girls I truly believe that. No one will ever understand me like they do. No one will ever have as much fun as we do just doing nothing. No one will ever see the real me like they do.
But the problem with college BFF’s is that after college is over, we all have to go start our real lives. This usually involves moving back home or away to your new job. It involves finding new roommates or trying to cope with the fact that Mom and Dad are going to be your new roommates. Life and work starts to get in the way. Meetings, financial projections, case studies and business trips slowly take over your life. Before you know it, you haven’t even spoken to your college BFF’s in weeks…..
I am one of the lucky few who happened to be unusually close to my college best friends. They were my sorority sisters, my roommates, my drinking and study companions, my best friends and partners in crime. The 6 of us were joined at the hip for an entire year. Therefore, we still keep in touch. We’ve done a yearly Vegas trip and other random trips to see each other in between. We group text every single day. We also do group Google + chats every now and then. I make us sound obsessive but, when it comes down to it, we really are.
I think the best way to describe it is that in college we all were on the same page. Sorority, classes 4 days a week, drinking and relaxing on the weekends, and a general confusion about the future. We all bonded over a common lifestyle and in many ways, that lifestyle is what brought us together. Now we are all on different life paths. Some of us are in relationships. Some of us live at home. Some of us know what we want to do with our lives. Some of us still drink every weekend. And all of us live in different places. So what can you do to keep that bond alive?
Test thing to do is to make your relationship with your college best friends a priority. Make sure to text them all the time. Set up monthly Google chats. And make sure that you always get together at least once a year. Your relationship may change but ultimately so will you. And who knows, in 30 years, you and your college BFF’s may be illegally checking into one hotel room and smuggling wine in your purse just like you used to do in college 🙂